With Valentine’s Day and my anniversary happening during the month of February, it makes sense that this month we’re all thinking about our marriages.
Whether you’ve been married for 10 days, 10 years, or more, we could all benefit from making small, daily changes that will have a meaningful impact on our most important relationship. Because like it or not, marriage is hard.
It requires daily focus, dedication and perseverance to make it work.
But all of that effort reaps some amazing rewards.
Today, during Day 2 of 10 Days To A Better Marriage, we’ll be focusing on one of the actions from yesterday’s Random Acts of Kindness Challenge: your spouse’s favorite meal.
It seems that your spouse’s favorite meal is one of two things: either very labor intensive or very juvenile.
Remember when Monica made Chandler’s favorite meal?
Hopefully you fall somewhere in between, but most couples I know tend to fall into these two camps, which means that their favorite meals don’t get made very often. We either don’t have the time or don’t want to make a meal we don’t like, and so our spouse’s favorite meal falls by the wayside.
So, if you can spare the time today, make your spouse’s favorite meal.
If you can’t spare the time, order his or her favorite meal from a restaurant and have it ready when they get home.
Or, if you budget doesn’t allow for takeout, can you rearrange your schedule to fit in time to prepare the meal yourself?
Small gestures like making you spouse’s favorite meal for them on a random weeknight may seem too small to make a difference. It may seem like they take more time than they’re worth. Or it may even seem like your marriage is at the end of it’s rope – and a single meal couldn’t save it.
And you would be right.
If you marriage seem like it is in it’s dying days, a meal won’t magically turn it around.
But that meal will show that you care, that you want your marriage to work, and that even though you’re worn out and scared about what is about to happen, you want to still be married.
And if your marriage has been worn down by the day-to-day of working, raising a family, and trying to make ends meet, a meal shows that you do indeed care, and a small gesture like that can go a long way to making your spouse feel loved and cared for – and an act that they’re likely to repay you.
So keep it simple today.
Find a meal your spouse like and make it happen.
Don’t set super high expectations, don’t ask for acknowledgement, just do it.
Your marriage will thank you.
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